Don’t ever let anyone tell you you’re stupid, ugly, too young or too old, boring, undesirable, weak, incapable, useless, or crazy. Ignore them, distance yourself from them, for they don’t know you or care about you. Anyway, you do a more than adequate job of abusing yourself. You don’t need any help with that. 😉
It pains me to say this, but for decades, I felt like life washed over me in oppressive waves, determining my direction. I watched life happen to me and I shook my head, “No, no, that’s definitely not what I ordered”, but I felt powerless, unable to change course. I felt battered and disheartened.
I was brought up in a home where faith was lived. I helped myself to many self-help books. I exercised, visualized, medicated, meditated and prayed, but somehow I remained in a state of depression and hopelessness. I was living as a victim. I convinced myself that I was incapable of discipline—that I was incapable of taking small, intentional steps toward a big goal. I allowed my perceived disabilities to keep me from exploring, creating, and sharing. What a waste of breath! No more! I refuse to listen to that scared, sniveling, whiny voice for another second. I’m set on inhale and the exhale is coming, full out blow.
A number of years ago, my husband and I purchased artwork made by a local artist while visiting Banff, Alberta, Canada. It’s a smooth glass sculpture, swirling with ribbons of luminous color and flecks of gold, depicting a human being with her arms raised above her head. The artist calls it a Celebration Figure. I wake every morning and see it on my dressing table reflected in the mirror. I believe in the power of symbols. Looking at it, I see hope and joy and victory. I’m starting to live with the expectation that something is coming—something gritty good. I’m leaning way in to grab hold.
Do you reflect on your life? We often ask questions of others, but how often do we question ourselves? Are you living the way you want to live or are you just being carried along, reacting in the often overwhelming business and busyness of life? I encourage you to take the time to do this as soon as possible. Use the following questions or make up your own:
- Is your home a relaxing, inviting place to be?
- Are you taking care of yourself, your mind, heart, and beautiful body? Are you nourishing yourself with adequate rest, healthy and pleasurable food and drink, enjoyable movement, and stimulating creative and educational pursuits?
- Are you nurturing the important relationships in your life?
- Are you reflecting on the deeper meaning of life and embracing and cultivating faith?
- Is your money being frittered away or is it going toward bettering the situation of yourself and others?
- Do you feel peace and contentment when reflecting on your home life, self care, relationships, faith, and finances or longing, frustration, sadness, or distress?
- What small changes can you make right now, quickly, to alleviate some of that longing, frustration, sadness, or distress? Read the book Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg, Ph D, if you struggle to make change happen in your life.
- What big changes need to be made to alleviate longing, frustration, sadness, or distress? Maybe you need to go on vacation, quit your job, go back to school for retraining, start a business, sell your house, move, see a psychologist for marriage, family, or personal counseling, confront a friend, see a doctor, start going to church, join a club, develop a new skill, establish an exercise routine, etc.
It’s taken me years to wake—to take responsibility for my choices and to see other possibilities besides treading water, thrashing, and drowning. It’s only been in the last seven years that I’ve managed to muster the confidence and courage to change the channel. At 56 years young, I’ve just begun to create a new vision for my life, but I don’t believe in the concept of “too late”. No matter our capacities, there’s always the possibility for change and, that, to me, is exciting and motivating. Whatever it’s that you need to do to be yourself and build a life filled with love, joy, peace and purpose, do it. Don’t delay. Don’t give in to fear. If I can do it, you can, too. You can read about my transformational journey here, here, and here. Whether you take small, tentative steps or a big, splashy dive in, begin and as you do, commit it God and ask for His leading. Today is the day. Remember, be here now and move forward into the life you’ve always wanted. 🙂
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