My Children Have Me

For my children

I have children and my children have me

They have my body

They took from me to form

The bricks and mortar of their frames

All mine

They grew inside

And forced their way into the world

And took me with them


They have my time

My resources are theirs

Their sustenance and shelter

Come at my expense

My help, consistent and intense

They flourish in the wake of all my tenderness

I carry and support them


They have my mind

My thoughts are oft of them

Their lives, their health and happiness

My meditation

Now become my true vocation

They learn and try, excel and make mistakes

And I applaud them


They have my heart

They had it from the first

My love for the them far from a wispy, passing notion

More like a sure devotion

No matter where or who they are

I cannot help but love them


They have my cells, my time, my care, my mind, my money, and my love

My listening ear

My best advice

My fervent prayers

My biggest hugs

There’s not a day that passes by

That I don’t thank the Lord above

That I have children and my children have me


Complete the experience. Listen to Amy Sky’s I Will Take Care of You.

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Thanks or No Thanks?

As I write this, I’m thinking of some of you slumped into your couches, warm and dozy, bellies full and rounded, resting in the company of your loved ones. Canada, did you have a happy Thanksgiving?

I find it funny that we set aside a day to be thankful. I hope that most of us educate our children on the importance of gratitude every day from the first word out of their thankyoukidsmouths. When my children were small, I remember reminding them over and over, on their birthdays, at someone’s door on Halloween, around the Christmas tree, to say thank you. I stopped reminding them at some point, maybe because they started saying it without my prompting.

I was curious to see if Thanksgiving is a worldwide celebration and it’s not. According to an article on Mental Floss, only 7 out of 195 countries in the world celebrate something similar to our Thanksgiving. This certainly makes us distinctive, but does it make us more thankful?

One has to be humble to say thank you. We don’t come out of the womb humble. We come out clamoring for attention and service. When we say thank you, we’re acknowledging that someone added something to our lives that wasn’t there before, something that enriched us. We’re admitting our need, our dependence on others.

Not everyone practices gratitude and I think practice is the key word here, because it’s not our norm. Sometimes, in the physical, mental, and emotional hullabaloo of life this practice gets pushed to the bottom of our to-do list, but, I believe, it should remain at the top. It’s essential for our health and well-being.grateful2

The practice of gratitude softens us, wearing away our rough edges. Grateful people are content with what they have and are surprised and delighted with blessings, big and small. Their eye, like a skilled photographer, sees goodness in the simple pleasures and daily graces that others are too busy to notice. They look for things to be thankful for and for people to thank. They recognize their fullness as a gift to be enjoyed and shared, not hoarded. Their gratitude doesn’t fluctuate with their circumstances. When they experience loss, they don’t forget who they are or what they have.

Greedy people are never satisfied with what they have. They look at their lot and see only lack. They compare their lot to others and seethe with envy. They’re consumed by their need to consume, driven to have the best of everything and to be better than everyone else. Gratitude, for them, is an antiquated notion for the simple minded who don’t have what it takes to go out and get what they want.

Entitled people who suffer from the “I deserve it” disease, contracted through advertising campaigns, believe they deserve blessing because they possess certain deserve-992634__480attributes like good looks, intelligence, and talent or because they work hard and think notoriety and success should be the logical outcome of their labors. This is faulty thinking as there are many attractive, talented, intelligent people who live in relative obscurity despite their efforts to shine and many hardworking people who never know success by North American standards. For the entitled, gratitude is contingent on whether they believe the universe is treating them fairly or not. Any dip in their popularity or pothole in their plans can cause crushing disappointment and quickly sour them on all life.

Avid complainers, the ones who pursue it like a hobby, are too busy being critical to be grateful. We’ve all heard the old maxim, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, except that these folks seem to not have heard of it or, at least, they don’t subscribe to it and are doing the exact opposite. They’re like smokestacks spewing clouds of exhaust into the air at regular intervals, dirtying the conversations they’re a part of with their choking vitriol.

I wish I could tell you that I rest in a place of gratitude, but I can’t. Sometimes, I take others for granted or I forget to say thank you or I fail to appreciate what I have. Sometimes, I look at what others have and I think I’m missing out or I think I deserve something and when it isn’t forthcoming the indignation wells up and bitterness threatens to take hold. In the past, I’ve rehashed grievances so often they’ve worn a groove in my brain, if not my tongue. It pains me to look at my sin, to know that I had an opportunity to show the world what a devoted follower of Jesus looks like and, instead, I followed my baser instincts. Thank God, Jesus came after me while I was yet a sinner.thankGod

I was reading the book of Philippians yesterday. In Philippians 3, Paul is recounting his all-consuming desire to know Christ, to the point where he refers to everything else in his life as garbage, but ends this passionate discourse by essentially saying, “I’m not there yet, but I’m going to keep working at it, because Christ has taken hold of me. I’m going to do the same.”

When my oldest daughter became a teenager, for a while, she shied away from physical affection. We would hug her, even group hug her, and her arms would hang at her sides. Thankfully, this is no longer the case with her and this is not the case for us with our Saviour. Praise be to God! Christ has taken hold of me, of you, of us, for a glorious purpose and, for our part, we must return his embrace. He longs to consume and transform us in the fire of his love, to make us grateful, gracious, generous people, if only heart-2671879__480we’ll cleave to him with all our might. Our wills may be weak and our arms feeble, but his grace and power will sustain and hold us secure. Like Paul, I’m choosing to “forget what’s behind”, I’m letting go of my guilt and reaching out for my Lord with gratitude in my heart and thanksgiving on my lips. Hold me, Jesus. I’ll do the same.


Complete the experience. Listen to the Katina’s Thank You.

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Coming and Going

A piece of my heart has wandered far from me.

I’ve had a number of firsts recently. I’ve never been on an all girl road trip. I’ve never traveled so many miles without a parent or my husband at the steering wheel. I’ve never had a child move out of my home. Until now.
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I Wanna Hold Your Hand

I had a moment this past Saturday; a remarkable moment. We inhabit our moments, or minutes, and many of them whiz by us without too much notice. This reminds me of something that happened to my husband recently.
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Grace and the Golden Shoes

I retired a pair of shoes recently. I remember buying these particular shoes because they were too expensive, in my estimation, but, also, too pretty to pass up. They were flip flops goldflower2on a wedge heel decorated with tiny leather flowers, each embossed with gold. I adored them. You may be asking, “Why is she telling us this?” Who cares that she retired a pair of shoes?” I tell you this because there was an incident involving these shoes that brought out a side of me I’m ashamed of and as I picked those faded gold flowers off of them, I was reminded of it.
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Got Love?

Love makes the world go round and sometimes it makes me want to hurl.

I was recently thinking about what an amazing life I have and, as I tallied up the reasons, it became clear to me that it’s largely due to one thing; love. I’m loved. My parents, from chelsea-bock-65622a young age, taught me that God, my maker and sustainer, loves me with a passionate, unchanging, undying love.
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Coming Back from the Dread

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)

Years ago, I worked as dental assistant. I handed instruments and materials to the dentist while he worked, took x-rays and impressions, and suctioned a lifetime of other people’s dentistry-316945_640spit, but the bulk of my work was cleaning; scrubbing blood and saliva off of instruments, bagging and sterilizing them and disinfecting all surfaces in the dental operatory between patients. I find cleaning grueling and so avoid it, certain that I don’t want to spend my diddly allotment of time here elbows deep in a pail of bubbles and that regret over a spattered mirror won’t haunt me on my deathbed. Consequently, this job was not a good fit for me. Over time, and I lasted almost six years before taking maternity leave, I descended into dread. Every day I had to work, I woke up with it sticking to me like sweaty sheets. There was a brief reprieve on the weekend, but its sour stench returned promptly on Sunday evening whenever I had to work Monday morning.

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I started working as a health care aide over a year ago now. I began my career at an assisted living complex where I went into people’s “homes” (rooms) and helped them get up, get ready and get on with their days. This particular establishment doesn’t insist on standardized beds, but allows people to bring in their own furniture. Though some have rooms that scream “recently purchased” at Bed, Bath and Benign, most of the contents have aged right along with their occupants. It’s not just their furniture, but their pictures, knickknacks, linens, and clothing, pretty much everything connected to them.
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What a Day that Will Be

My daughter and I were nearing the end of our nightly walk and the sun was dipping low, the color of an orange Creamsicle. It flung its glow across the earth making the landscape appear soft and subdued, as if it were robed and ready to turn in. I looked over at my daughter’s face and that glow was resting on her, too. She looked prettier than I’d ever seen her look and I felt compelled to tell her what I saw. She responded,”Your face looks the same way.”
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On Insecurity

I’m insecure. I can hear it dribble out sometimes when I talk, like when you’ve come from the dentist and the freezing hasn’t subsided yet and you don’t know you’re drooling until you feel it on your chin. I catch myself trying to puff myself up ever so subtly and cringe on the inside. Why do I need to do that? I notice others doing it and say in my head, “that person is insecure just like me”. Usually, knowing that you’re not alone makes a person feel better, but I don’t in this case. It speaks to some lack in my relationship with God. Rather than being rooted firmly in the love he has for me and resting there, I’m anxious, eager for glances and superficial flattery from people I hardly know.
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